Embarrassed by my farting vagina
I have a very shameful problem, and I hope you can help me. I am 24 years old, and I have a one-year-old child. Before I got pregnant and was having sex with my boyfriend, my vagina kept making funny noises and expressing air as though it was 'farting'. After the birth of my child, I think the problem has worsened. I am scared to talk to my doctor about it because I am too embarrassed. It is affecting my sex life! I do not want to have sex because I feel as though I am farting on my man during intercourse, and I have no control over it!
I have read up a bit about my problem over the Internet, and I think it has something to do with the shape of my vagina, but I haven't been able to locate a cure. Can you help me? Is there a home remedy or easy physical practice that you think would be of any help to me? Or would I need an operation?
I desperately look forward to hearing from you soon.
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You should not be afraid or ashamed to talk to your gynaecologist about your problem. According to sex therapist Dr Ruth Westheimer, "Sometimes when a woman is exercising, or during intercourse, air can be forced into the vagina, and when the woman changes position, it goes back out, producing a sound as if she were passing gas. This is a common occurrence and should not be a cause of embarrassment."
Some men laugh when their women's vaginas make funny sounds, but the women express disgust. So see your gynaecologist. He/she would perhaps discuss with you the strengthening of your pubococcygeus muscles, etc.