My mother is cheating on my father


January 04, 2018

Dear Pastor,

I am 19 years old, and I am concerned about my mother. My mother is cheating on my father. She does not know that I know. My mother has her own car, and she has a good job. One day I left school early. I tried to get her on the cell phone to tell her that I was coming to stay with her and would go home with her. Her phone ran without an answer, and then it went to voicemail. I left a message, but she didn't reply. I decided that I would still go to her workplace.

When I got there, her secretary told me that my mother had gone out, but would be back. I told her that I knew, because I saw her car in the parking lot. I was there for an hour and a half. I kept looking out, and I saw a car drive up. She came out of the car. She was so surprised when she saw me. I told her that I was trying to call her, and she said that she was discussing business with the man who took her out. I asked her what business and she said, "business, I will tell you later on." I am 19 years old, and I know what a woman can do. I am young, but I have friends and we talk.

My father is away. I know what I did was not right. I have never done it before, but Pastor, I searched my mother's phone. What I saw shocked me. I saw messages in there from a man to my mother, and I suspected that this was the same man she went out with. I did not know that my mother would cheat on my father. He has been a good father and a good husband. The man even explained in the text where he and my mother could meet to have sex, and she responded in the affirmative. I know I cannot keep this to myself. I am sharing it with you. I have lost respect for my mother.

These days, whenever my mother tells me anything, I don't even listen to her. I have not told my father what has happened. I only told him on the phone that I had something to tell him, and he said he would hear when he comes, but to make sure that I am not pregnant.

Please, give me your advice.


Dear P.B.,

First of all, I would suggest that you tell your mother that you are aware that she is cheating on your father, and that you would want to know why. Tell her that you have proof. if she decides to make an issue out of what you asked her, if she denies that she is cheating, tell her that you feel that you are going to tell your father what she is doing. Tell her that you are asking her to desist from what she is doing, because if she continues to cheat on your father, you will tell him.

From the tone of your letter, you believe that your mother is actually having sex with this man. This is a very delicate matter. I am sure your mother would not want your father to know that she has been unfaithful to him. If she is wise, she will confide in you by telling you the reasons why she cheats.

I would further suggest that if she admits that she has cheated, and she has ended the relationship with her lover, you should try your best not to let your father know that your mother has been having an affair.


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