Boyfriend allowed friend to rape me

Dear Pastor,

I am a 24-year-old woman who really needs some advice. When I was 16 years old, I met a guy who I really liked. One night, he said he wanted to see me, so one of my male cousins accompanied me to go to see him. I went to see him, not knowing that they had planned to rape me.

When I was in the house having sex with the guy, my cousin was outside, and not long after, a guy came inside the house and decided that he wanted to have sex with me, too. I told him no, and that was when the guy I was willingly having sex with held me and allowed the other guy to rape me.

I was scared, so I didn't tell anyone until three months after when I found out that I was pregnant. When I told someone, they said I should have gone to the doctor. I want to do a DNA test, Pastor.

T.B.

Dear T.B.,

I regret hearing that you were raped. I have said on numerous occasions that every rape should be reported to the police. Even now, it is not too late to report the man who raped you. It might be very hard to prove, but your boyfriend should be able to substantiate your story.

I don't understand why you would consider this man to be your boyfriend if he held you down and allowed another man to rape you.

I am really sorry to know that you went through this sort of trauma and have now found yourself pregnant. You need therapy. Doing a DNA test to determine the father of the child is important, but you have to get some professional help to know how to cope with the incident of rape.

I suggest that you call the Rape Unit. They will tell you what to do. My prayers are with you.

Pastor