My brother has sex with women on my bed

Dear Pastor,

This is the first time I am writing to you. I am having a problem. I am 17 years old and I am living with my grandmother. My grandmother is a Christian. The house has four bedrooms, but it is a two-family house. My grandmother rents out the small side to a couple. They were recently married. I have my own room, and my grandmother has her own room.

I have a big brother; he is 24 years old. He is living with his girlfriend. She is in her early 30s. My brother is very wild. He has lots of girls although he lives with his girlfriend and they have a child together. My grandmother works out, but when my brother wants to have sex with any of his girls, he takes them to where I live with my grandmother and he uses my room with his girls. I have to stay outside until he is finished having sex with the women.

One evening he came with a girl, and when they were finished having sex, she used the bathroom and forgot her rag in there. I did not see the rag, otherwise I would have moved it. When my grandmother came home and went into the bathroom, she saw the rag and asked me whose rag it was. I told her I did not know. My grandmother got very upset and told me that she smelled the rag and it is a woman's rag. I had to tell my grandmother that it was my brother who took a woman there and she called him and told him not to bring any woman in her house.

He told my grandmother that he didn't bring anyone there. I told my grandmother the whole truth. I told her that it is not the first time he had brought women there, and then I had to sleep on the same sheet. Grandma told me that whenever he comes back with any woman, I should call her. My brother called me all sorts of names, including the 'P' word.

If this girl did not leave her rag in the bathroom, I would not have told grandma anything. But it is the lie that he was telling on me that upsets me because my grandmother is the one who is sending me to school, and she warned me not to bring any woman to her house.

F.W.

Dear F.W.

This thing has happened a number of times. You said your brother is wild. He is living with his girlfriend, but he has other women. He doesn't want to pay motel bills, so he uses his grandmother's house to have fun with his women. You have never reported him to grandma, but this time the girl left her rag and your grandmother questioned you about the rag and you told her the truth. You didn't do anything wrong, but now your brother has decided to lie on you to say that he did not take anybody to her house. I repeat, you have not done anything wrong

You told your grandmother the truth, and regardless of what your brother may say about you to your grandmother, stand firm. That is all I have to say.

Pastor