Check Up: Knowing your erogenous zones
Jessica, 28, writes from Duhaney Park. Her chief concern is that she has never experienced an orgasm. She has had only one sexual partner and she is wondering if she will ever experience the feeling. She is not the first girlfriend for her partner and he has told her that his previous partners didn't seem to experience her problems. Jessica wants to know which of the female body areas, apart from the clitoris, brings pleasure to a woman as she is going to try them all with her partner, ASAP!
The truth is that many women do not experience orgasm from intercourse. Often, extensive foreplay is a part of the lovemaking necessary for a woman to experience sexual fulfilment. Of course, some women fake orgasms to please their partners, while several feel strong emotions of bonding and closeness with their partners during intercourse, which enhances the entire experience separate and apart from achieving orgasm.
Women do have 'erogenous zones' all over their bodies which, when stimulated, can heighten sensitivity and produce relaxation,
sexual arousal and orgasm.
The sensitivity of an erogenous zone depends on the concentration of nerve endings in the area being stimulated. People can become aroused when their eyelids, eyebrows, shoulders, arms, hands and hair are gently touched. Stroking the abdominal skin and kissing the navel will also stimulate a partner of either sex. This indicates that in truth, the entire body, full of its nerve endings, is an erogenous zone!
Erogenous zones then, can be 'specific' or 'non-specific'. In non-specific erogenous areas - like the back of the neck, inner arms, armpits and inner thighs - the skin has the normal density of nerves and hair, and anticipation as well as sensation is responsible for the sexual awareness.
Specific erogenous zones are associated with sexual response and these areas include the lips, nipples, clitoris, vulva and perianal area in women. In these areas, nerves are placed closer to the external surface of the skin than in other areas.
DENSITY OF NERVES
These zones also have a higher density of nerves, the ability to stimulate arousal in the brain and efficient wound healing. Other female erogenous zones include:
n The lower third of the vagina near the entrance.
n Within the anterior wall of the vagina is an area of tissue which has a slightly different texture, called the urethral sponge or G-spot. This is an erogenous zone which, when stimulated, can lead to sexual arousal and orgasm. The G-spot is not found in all women and is believed to be an extension of clitoral tissues inside.
n Mouth, lips and tongue are very sensitive and are stimulated by kissing and
n Over the scalp, a gentle scalp massage with stimulation of the hair follicles can be relaxing to stimulating.
n The neck, clavicle and back of the neck are very sensitive in both males and females. Light caresses, kissing or small 'hickey' bites are stimulating to varied extents.
n Breathing in the ears and whispering softly is also pleasurable.
n The areola and nipple are concentrations of nerve tissue. The actual breast has the same number of nerve endings no matter how large the breast is, so larger breasts may require more stimulation. Intense nipple stimulation can result in the production of the hormones oxytocin and prolactin, which can also stimulate genital contractions to the point where orgasm can occur.
Stimulation of this area manually or with teeth and tongue is a very pleasurable sensation for many people.
n The abdominal wall, especially the navel area and below, is sensitive to finger- tips and tongue.
n The mid-arm bend (front of elbow joint) has thinner skin and is especially sensitive as the nerves are more accessible.
n Armpits are the most likely site of pheromones in humans and are another erogenous area.
n Fingertips have many nerve endings and are very sensitive. Inner thighs, feet and toes are also sensitive to touch.
n The scalp is full of sensitive nerve endings and is stimulated by massage. Stimulating the scalp releases 'feel good' hormones and increases blood flow all over the body.
n The ears also contain many nerve endings and is sensitive to light fingertip massage or kissing.
n Lips have 100 times more nerve endings than fingertips. Kissing releases 'feel good' hormones to affect emotions as well as genetalia. Be creative when kissing. Lick, nibble and caress.
n The clitoris is the only part of the female human body where the sole purpose is to provide pleasure. It is packed with 8,000 nerve endings! Stimulation of the clitoris before penile penetration is very important to ensuring the female's sexual enjoyment.
n An ignored erogenous zone is behind the knees and the kneecap, which is responsive to massage and kisses.
I hope that Jessica will begin to show her partner what she likes, or even ask him to read this article.
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