Pregnant for a married man


September 20, 2018

Dear Pastor,

I am 17 years old, and I am pregnant with my first child. I was working with the man who got me pregnant, and I liked him.

I fell in love with him, and he told me that he loved me too. He also told me that he was married.

One night, we were having sex, and he said that he had to stop because he forgot to put on the condom.

He pulled out and got a condom and put it on, and we continued to have sex. Weeks after, my sister asked me why I was looking so different. She said I looked like someone who is pregnant.

She asked me if I had had sex with anybody, and I told her yes and told her who the person was. She asked him about it and he said that he did not realise that I was so young.

He said that he thought that I was older and that if I am pregnant, the child is not his because he used a condom.

Pastor, I haven't had sex with anybody but this man. I have a boyfriend in the rural area, but I haven't seen him for more than a year.

This man is the only person I have had sex with. So, how come he is saying that I am not pregnant for him? It is his child.

My sister believes me. But it seems as if he is afraid that his wife might find out. Please give your advice.


Dear R.S.,

You are 17 years old, and although you should have known that having unprotected sex can cause you to become pregnant, this man, who is much older and is married, should have protected you.

He is a wicked and careless man. He had condoms with him, how could he have forgetten to use one?

He started to have sex with you and then withdrew and told you that he forgot to put one on.

My dear, by the time he withdrew his penis from your vagina, the damage had already been done.

That's because fluid seeps through a man's penis and contains sperm cells, and that is exactly what happened when this man was having sex with you. And that is what got you pregnant - the initial fluid.

This man was in such haste that he might not have even put on the condom correctly, regardless of what he says.

If you know that you have had nothing to do with another man, insist that he impregnated you and challenge him to do a DNA test after the child is born.


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