My father got two best friends pregnant

Dear Pastor,

This is the first time I am writing to you, but I am a regular reader. I am 17 years old, and I am doing very well in school. Very soon I will be entering college.

I have a sister who is in college, but she grew up with her mother. My father got her mother pregnant, but he did not marry her. Instead, he married my mother.

My mother said that my father was dating both of them at the same time, but my sister’s mother was more aggressive, so he spent more time with my mother. Then my sister’s mother told my mother that she was pregnant for him.

My father told my mother that he had already told that woman he could not marry her because he loved my mother more.

My mother told me that she tried to push my father away when she realised that he had gotten her friend pregnant, but he would not leave her alone. Fifteen months later, she found herself pregnant for him as well.

My mother and my sister’s mother get along very well. To this day, my father loves both women. My sister’s mother has never married. She says that the only man she would marry is my father.

My mother says she would not trust my father and this woman together, but my father insists that nothing is going on between them anymore.

My father has a very good job and has supported both my sister and me very well. My sister stays with me sometimes. She carries her mother’s maiden name, so many people do not know that we are sisters.

C.

Dear C.,

Your father could be described as a rude boy who dated two girlfriends at the same time. He got one pregnant and, for a time, caused the other to reject him. However, he was persuasive enough to maintain the relationship he had with your mother, and eventually she became pregnant as well.

So he ended up getting both women pregnant and fathering two daughters.

However, he should be commended for supporting his daughters, and evidently both of you have done very well in school.

Your mother and your sister’s mother have remained good friends, which is commendable.

I hope your sister continues to excel in whatever she is doing at the moment, and as you prepare to enter college, I wish the same success for you.

I wish you, your mother, your sister and everyone connected to your family all the very best. May you all continue to live in peace.

Respect is due to each mother and to your father as well.

Pastor