Babyfather is joking with our future

Dear Pastor,

My father is over 70 years old. I am his only daughter. He said he fathered two boys but their mothers didn’t give them to him.

I asked my father how he knew that he fathered two children with this woman. He said that a man with experience knows when he gets a woman pregnant. He said part of the problem that he had with women was that he was not driving, and this particular one loved men who drove motor cars and pickup trucks. He said those men were able to give her rides and money every week. He used to go around and cut people’s yards, but he only had a bicycle.

My father said my mother did not demand anything from him. Whatever he gave her, she was satisfied. I resemble my father. My father built a board house on a piece of land that my grandfather gave to him. My father has never been married, and he told me that the house that he has built on his father’s land is mine.

I have one daughter and her father and I are getting along well. I told him that he should assist me in surveying the land and putting it in my name because I would not want my father to die and relatives fight me over it. I went to see a lawyer who told me what should be done, but I cannot get this man, who says that he loves me, to give me any money to move forward.

I am telling myself that I should give up this man if he doesn’t give me any money by the end of the year.

We can have a bright future together, but I am not going to spend everything I earn and then put this little piece of land into both our names. I will do it alone if I have to. What do you have to say?

O.

Dear O.,

I am happy to hear that your father is willing to give you the house he built, but you would have to have it surveyed and put into your name.

You discussed the matter with your child’s father but he has not offered you any financial help. I have seen so many women who have had to administrate for land, etc, on their own, and then these so-called sweet boys live on the property and live off these women.

I think that women should kick these men out and go through life alone, so to speak. Don’t allow this man to live off you. If he is not willing to assist you financially, kick him out of your life. Take care of your father and keep in touch with me.

Pastor